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Insights, Understandings, Blessings

Happy Smiling Flower

This was originally written 5 years ago, while in India.  This April, I am Not In India, but the past six months have seen great upheaval in my life once again, and the insights and understandings are once again a blessing, no less than they were 5 years ago.   Hope you will allow me to share it here, with some slight editing.

April 2007 McLeodganj , Dharamsala, India

More than anything, I have  truly learned the meaning of living in the moment and by doing so, with complete Faith in the wisdom of God and His Universe, I have found the secret of a truly happy and easy existence. I have been working and writing and teaching about Mindfulness and living in the moment for the past 6 years, (it is now 11 years) and this has been for me a validation of everything I’ve been working on and trying to help others live as well.

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Wanting more, or different, or faster, or whatever, only leads to frustration and fears of “what if”…”why me”..etc. Truly being with each moment and living each day as fully as possible and in true gratitude for each day’s blelssings, brings us true inner peace.

There have been many unexpected things this trip,(these past 6 months) but I have found the tranquility within to accept and embrace each new thing as it comes my way, with true equanimity and grace…and I feel so at peace despite the unexpected at each turn.

I am truly blessed.

With Love Light and Joy

Jane

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LETTING GO

I have been going through a particularly difficult week for personal reasons and these times always test us.  They are sure indications of where we truly are in our life’s journey. They remove any pretense or pretension we may have about the progress we have made along our own journey.  They are truly blessings in disguise from an all wise and loving God and Universe.  I have been finding it difficult to be compassionate with myself and allow myself to be “weak”, to cry, to be afraid.  Today, I finally gave myself permission to feel whatever it is my soul needs to feel at this time, and asked the Angels for assistance in flowing with this decision.  And I was immediately guided to my collection of poems written over the years, and to this one in particular.  So it is mostly here for me, but am hoping it will bring some inspiration or personal message to others who read it as well.

with love light and JOY

Jane

 

Letting Go

Release anger,
Release fear,
Release Worry
Embrace love
Embrace faith
Embrace calm acceptance.

The river will take you swiftly along at certain points
And allow you periods of motionless calm
But the current will always be there to move your boat along
You may see places you would like to stop at
But the choice is not always yours
Release into the flow of the river
And calmly and joyfully accept whatever direction it takes you.

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Sing Your Own Song

CHOOSING JOY-OR "SING JOY"

While practicing my yoga this morning, I was focusing on the photo above as I did my Tree Pose. It is one of my favorite signs (I have many on the wall facing my yoga mat and at different times, different ones draw my attention – usually bringing me messages appropriate to the particular day, or period in my life as needed.
While focusing all my attention on the “JOY” photo – what I kept seeing was not “choosing joy” but “SING JOY

Look more closely and you will understand what popped out at me.

I love to sing (although those around me truly suffer when I do it since I cannot carry a tune for the life of me !). I usually try to sing when no one is around, or when I still had a car, did most of my really loud singing while driving. I DO sing however when others are around sometimes, particularly when I dance folkdancing and people DO tend to give me dirty looks. But that is their problem I figure.

We all have our own song, our own style, our own personalities, our own way of doing things. We all “sing to the song of a different drummer” in one way or another. What is important, is to find our own song, to sing it joyfully, to rejoice in it, and to sing it often. Be who you are. Do what brings you JOY. Rejoice in your own specialness. And don’t let anyone make you feel uncomfortable about your way of doing things, of perceiving things, of responding to things, of

singing your own song.

with love light and JOY
Jane

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Living in the Shadow of the Past and the Power of Forgiveness

Like your shadow on the sidewalk when the sun shines behind you, holding onto painful past memories darkens each forward step which could instead be filled with light.

UN-Forgiveness is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die

The above statements may seem obvious, and simple, but  they are most profound and warrant further thought and attention.

Holding onto the past is probably the most universal of all human behavior patterns. It is the rare individual who lives his life entirely in the present, unburdened by influences from the past. At the same time, it is one of the main causes of worry, tension, pain, sadness, depression, anger, grief, hate, jealousy, discontent, even physical illnesses – just about everything and anything that each of us would be much better off without.

 

So, how can we rid ourselves of this terrible burden? There is only one way.

Forgiveness!

Forgiveness does not necessarily mean condoning things that happened to us or that were done to us by strangers, and even more difficult to deal with, by those close to us. It means reaching a point in life where we simply decide “Enough!”. I will no longer allow the past to rule my life and take possession of my thoughts, feelings, reactions and dictate the way I live each day. The burden of the past is heavy enough to weigh us down until we are bent over and unable to move, stuck in a place we do not wish to be in, but which we do not have the energy to move out of.

Only by dumping this terrible burden can we again feel light, joyful, fresh, young, energetic, enthusiastic, creative, loving, caring, compassionate, patient and tolerant, content, vibrant and full of peace and tranquility.

I am attaching (at the end of this post) some wonderful short statements, dealing with the power of forgiveness…and how our past effects each step we take in the present.

There are also many wonderful techniques which can help up to  forgive and then easily  release the past and move out of its shadow. I will do my best to describe the one which I find most effective. This is from both personal experience and the experiences of many of my clients who have moved on to wonderful new places in their lives after combining the technique with other subtle forms of energy work such as Reiki and Bach Flower Remedies-but it is a technique which can work entirely on its own if taken seriously and done properly and with intent.

Forgiveness Exercise:

  1. Using a full size notebook or pad (A4, letter size), take a page and fold it in half lengthwise.
  2. Number each line from 1 to 70.
  3. Choose a person you wish to begin forgiving. This can be as simple as a teacher in the first grade who made you stand in the corner or as deep as an abusive parent. It can be yourself (but this is better left until later on in the forgiveness work) or even God! You may want to begin with something small and move on to the heavier duty things once you get the hang of the exercise, but there is no reason why you cannot “jump right into deep water” if you so choose.
  4. On the left hand side of the page (remember, there is a fold line down the middle of the page), start on line one, and on each line up to 70 write: ” I (your name) completely and totally forgive (name of other person).”
  5. You will write this 70 times.
  6. While writing this short but powerful sentence, thoughts will begin to come up into your head “Why the hell am I doing this?” “This is silly” “There is NO way I will forgive this person”, “Look at what he did to me when he….” Etc., etc. Every single thought, without censorship and without comment , judgment or contemplation, you simply write down on the RIGHT side of the fold. As they come, as they flow, just write and then immediately go back to writing the other sentence 70 times. DO NOT STOP TO READ OR THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE WRITING ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FOLD LINE.
  7. Once you have written this 70 times, take the piece of paper and BURN IT.
  8. Do this for a full 7 days FOR EACH PERSON. And burn at the end of each day.
  9. At the beginning of a new week, choose someone new to work on.
  10. As the days go by, the thoughts that immerge from the depths of our subconscious will become less and less. There will probably be no more left by the end of the week regarding the person involved. If there ARE still many thoughts, do the same person for a second full week! But this RARELY happens.

Once the person is taken care of and the papers are burnt, you will feel an enormous lightness overtake you. It is quite remarkable. It really does work!

If something is unclear about the above, please feel free to comment below and I will explain further. I wish you all wonderful new days filled with the relief of “dropping” the weight of the past from your shoulders, and standing tall of joyfully embrace each new day.

…and as promised:  further food for thought regarding forgiveness.

  • “Healing requires taking action–it is not a passive event.’
  •  ‘What drains your spirit drains your body. What fuels your spirit fuels your body.’
  • ‘We have converted our wounds into a type of relationship currency that we use in order to control situations and people.’
  • ‘Healing means getting over the pain, not marketing it.’
  • ‘Therapy is a boat to cross the river, we just have to remember to get off on the other side.’
  • ‘Master your responses to external events–don’t attempt to control them.’
  • ‘Forgiveness is like a rough diet with no payback — you won’t like it until it’s over.’
  • Just let go. Let go of how you thought your life should be, and embrace the life that is trying to work its way into your consciousness.’
  • ‘Forgiveness doesn’t look attractive until we get to the other side.’
  • Present time energy is its own transformer. The more energy you have in present time, the more voltage you can move through you.
  • ‘Call back the energy you are wasting on events of the past.’
  • We are never being punished, only being taught. Everything is a teaching.
  • ‘It goes without saying that not every healing crisis will have a ‘fairy-tale ending,’ but every effort you make, regardless of how insignificant it may seem to you, will always bring you closer to a state of spiritual and physical health.’
  • What is wrong with us that we have to have yesterday’s grief with us today?
  • Forgiveness is a path to my inner laboratory.
  • Get bored with your past, it’s over! ‘
  • Release the need to know why things happen the way they do.’ ‘
  • Never look to another person to make you happy–happiness is an internal, personal attitude and responsibility.’
  • ‘Life is essentially a learning experience. Every situation, challenge and relationship contains some message worth learning or teaching to others.’
  • ‘Practice forgiveness of others.’
  • ‘Positive energy works more effectively than negative energy in each and every situation.’ ‘
  • Our emotions reside physically in our bodies and interact with our cells and tissues.’
  • ‘Nothing empowers our ability to heal as much as our love and forgiveness.’
  • ‘The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.’
  • ‘Spiritual teachings encourage us to grow past and through painful experiences, each of which is a spiritual lesson.’
  • ‘Illness can develop as a consequence of behavioral patterns and attitudes that we do not realize are biologically toxic until they have already become so.’ ‘
  • I am forgiving not for you, but for me. I am forgiving because I want my power back.’
  • ‘Get over it.’
  • ‘Feeling victimized only adds to your illness, and should it become a full state of mind, would qualify as an illness in itself.’
  • ‘We are addicted to the power of the wound.’
  • ‘Release victim consciousness and embrace forgiveness.’
  • We can achieve a genuine sense of peace about life only by releasing our need to know why things happen in terms of human reasoning and by embracing Divine reasoning.’
  • ‘We cannot seek to heal an illness without first looking into what behavioral patterns and attitudes need to be altered in our life.’
  • For every time zone that we are in, other than here, we drain our life energy.
  • Law of the gods: get bitter or better.
  • A forgiving heart is an honest heart.
  • Blame is a form of energetic cancer.
  • If anyone tries to complicate your life – turn and walk away from them
  • If it’s not about you, it’s not about you
  • You can’t understand what you can’t understand
  • Don’t make simplicity hard
  • Your task is to learn the lesson that the teacher has for you rather than to resent the teacher
  • Seen symbolically, our life crises tell us that we need to break free of beliefs that no longer serve our personal development
  • Our lives change externally as we change internally
  • View every experience as a blessing and a remedy that serves your well-being.
  • Illness can be a teacher, companion, or challenge-but not a punishment.
  • Healing requires that you admit the truth about yourself.
  • Embrace the changes in your life.
  • Bless your difficulties and ask to see their hidden guidance.
  • Be mindful of how often you judge others.
  • Become mindful of your reasons to stay angry
  • To be unable to forgive is to live in hell, burdened, miserable, angry
  • Get in present time and forgive the people who have hurt you
  • We are not meant to stay wounded
  • To blame the other players in our drama for helping to teach us what we need to learn is the height of foolishness
  • Understand that all experiences either make you bitter or better
  • Practice the art of transformation
  • Become mindful that remaining in a conflict is a choice
  • Learn that the way to set change in motion is to bless and appreciate even the most difficult parts of our life
  • Recognize whether you love yourself enough to heal
  • Realize you choose to stay angry when you can choose to heal
  • Sometimes the strings to our past are burned because we need a new beginning

 
With much love, light, health, tranquility and JOY.
Jane

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January 25, 2012 – Same Same But Different

One of the difficult things about my not being in India this year is that I don’t get to enjoy my daily walks – anywhere between 2-6 hours on any given day.  Why not?  Good question!!

So I decided to do something about it.  There is no good reason not to be out walking here as well, on nice days especially, and although the sights may be different, they are no less interesting or less surprising or less beautiful than those in India.  And to my surprise, once I began these walks, I realized that there is much in common- with slight differences. So, since the blog is called Not In India 2012, lets do some comparing

SAME SAME BUT DIFFERENT and I will try to make this a good photo post to give you some idea of what I mean.

However, before I could actually begin benefiting from these walks, I had to realize that one of the things that makes my walking so wonderful in India, is that I am ALWAYS aware of what is going on around me, and I marvel at the sights I see.  So why not do that here as well?  Less interesting you say?

Well, have you ever gone walking with a toddler or young child.  Doesn’t matter where you take them.  They will always find fascinating things to see and do along the way. Like a birds nest,

or an interesting entranceway to a house

Once I decided , mindfully, to connect with my own inner child (after a few walks with my 18 month old granddaughter) and become completely aware of everything around me, the walking became a magical experience, even here in the middle of town.

OBSERVATIONS:

Doesn’t matter whether you are walking in Rishikesh or Herzlia.  Better keep your eyes open and watch where you step, or chances are you will not enjoy the results.  In India it will be cow dung, and here it will be dog poop…but the chances of it happening if you don’t watch your step are about equal!  And just as annoying!!

You might not see any interesting animals walking around here, like MONKEYS,

Lemurs

Rhesus Monkey

DODNKEYS

Donkeys

Donkeys with Full Loads

 

or COWS,

Mother and Baby Cow

Mean Cow

but watching the cars go by, and the people racing along can be just as interesting (Just hard to photograph because everything here moves so quickly…no shanti to be seen anywhere).  And you MAY even see something FOR animals like this:  A PLAYGROUND FOR DOGS…something you would NEVER see in India!!

And then there is always the glorious contrast between blue sky and green trees-

HERE:

OR THERE,

Blue Sky-Green Trees India

it is wonderful to see.

And then there are the trees:  So many different types and shapes….never a dull moment when we walk with mindfulness.

Bare Tree

Strange Tree

Spreading Branches

Even when the clouds begin rolling in, it can be beautiful, and brings some cooling air when the sun gets too hot suddenly.

Clouds In India

Clouds Rolling In

And what would be a good walk without stopping along the way for something to eat?  In India, my favorite choice of a snack or brunch would be Aloo Parantha served with yogurt and chutney and a steaming glass of spicy masala chai.

Aloo Parantha with Curd and Chutney

That of course will not be found here, unless of course I make it at home myself:

 

Aloo Parantha Puffed on the Flame - A bread stuffed with spicy potato mixture

but what could be bad about this lovely Israeli breakfast with a lovely cup of steaming hot chocolate to drink?

Life is good, if we choose to perceive it as such.  Wherever we may find ourselves, blessings and miracles and beauty and wonder are all around.  Use mindfulness next time you are out and about…become aware of ALL…connect frequently with you Inner Child to truly celebrate life !

 

with love light and JOY

Jane

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Ram Jhula Sunset - Rishikesh

Know What is Good for You….and…….with no excuses, do it often!

This sounds easy to say, but how many of us truly know what is good for us?  If we have figured it out, after years of trial and error, how many times in life do we find excuses not to do this THING because we get sidetracked, are too busy, too tired, to involved with other things, etc.

I recently suffered the consequences of “not doing my thing” over a very long period of time, when I found myself with an immune system which had completely crashed.  Getting things back into balance, is alot more work than keeping  them that way in the first place!

My “thing” is what I like to call my “morning stuff” (which I will explain further on), but it is something which I have personally found to bring me the balance I need in my daily life to remain healthy on all levels.

Like someone going to the gym daily and then stopping completely-withdrawal is both physical mental and emotional… sometimes you may not have time or energy or the urge to do YOUR thing, but if you stop completely it will wreck havoc with all your systems. You may be able to cut back and still keep your balance…but don’t allow yourself the luxury of getting completely sidetracked by external matters and completely ignoring the THING that is so vital to your stability and good health and wellbeing. You may even have to force yourself at times to get down on the meditation pillow,or the yoga mat, or going to the gym, or the pool, or hugging a tree, or getting out in the garden, out walking, (even if the excuse is to walk the dog), down to the beach or on the bike or treadmill. Whatever your thing is, DO IT…regularly, with no excuses. And if you DO find that something has kept you away for a period of time, don’t let that hiatus become overextended. Days, perhaps weeks, but certainly not months!!

Be kind, compassionate and loving enough of yourself to make sure you DO YOUR THING! Often , joyfully and with gratitude.

For many reasons I had gotten away from my own daily routine, and this time it was not days, or even weeks, but almost 6 months – a true catastrophe for me on many levels.  I have been guided gently but powerfully back to my “thing” and in only 3 days have already begun to feel the results in more clarity, energy, alertness, creativity (hence the new blog), youthful enthusiasm, joy and laughter, peace of mind and gentleness of speech. And of course tranquility and stress free well being.

My thing:  my Morning Stuff, includes all of the following (if things are really going well), or as many of them as possible each morning before I begin my day in any other way:

Reiki self-treatment – up to 1 full hour-usually done while still half asleep so the time factor is less significant

Reiki Distance Healing to others:  up to 1/2 hour-same as above

Short Morning Prayer and recitation of Reiki Principles (ask for more details if this interests you) -5 minutes

Connection with my Guides, God and the Angels and to all beings-asking for guidance and direction for the coming day and wisdom to hear the messages sent me to guide and direct me – also “surrounding and filling myself with the light of love joy and protection” – 15 minutes (may be longer at times of need)

Drinking two glasses of warm water

Shaolin Massage (ask if you want more details on this stimulating waker-upper)-5 minutes

Chakra Balancing – 10 minutes

Pranayama (Yogic breathing exercises)  10-20 minutes

Meditation/Prayer Session – 20 minutes to 1 hour

Yoga – 1/2 hour

Warm Sesame Oil Massage

Hot Shower

If my day is going well, I will be up and beginning the rest of my day after 2 1/2 hours.  When time is short, I can manage with 1-1 1/2 hours, or I can leave the yoga for the afternoon (but that is usually not a good idea as it hardly ever “happens” once I’ve gotten involved in my daily activities)

So remember:

Be kind, compassionate and loving enough of yourself to make sure you DO YOUR THING! Often , with no excuses, joyfully and with gratitude.

with love light and JOY

Jane

 

 

 

 

 

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The Light Always Awaits Us After the Storm

The Light Always Awaits Us After the Storm

When dealing with difficult situations, which very often involve dear friends or family members, we may often feel as if we have come up against a brick wall.  The other party refuses to talk to you, pays no attention to anything you try to say or explain, emits high levels of hostility, anger, disregard, derision or even contempt for what we feel is important.

The normal response in real time is to lash out with anger, frustration, jealousy or sarcasm.  And of course, none of this works.  It only helps to escalate an already explosive situation, and forces the other side to react in kind.

HH  Dalai Lama speaks about these issues when dealing not only with loved ones and friends, but even enemies.  His first piece of advice is of course to use compassion (which in this instance he interprets as using affection or love), but to combine it with reason and patience.

Well, this little piece of advice was something I put into action this past week…affection (love/compassion), reason and patience, in dealing with just another explosive situation involving those close to me.  To my great surprise, the results were amazingly simple and beautiful to behold.  The “situation” ended quietly, peacefully and lovingly, and “talking about it” was hardly necessary at all, since the “reason” part of the equation simply made so much sense, combined with the love and patience (for the other side to understand in their own way, at their own pace – which might take even a few days which is where the patience comes in).

Keeping those three things in mind next time you come up against something like this could make all the difference.  And if need be,take the time to “put your head together” before confronting the other person. And if, after all this, things still don’t seem to work out, don’t take it personally.  You have done everything you could have to rectify a bad situation, in the best possible way. It is now out of your hands and no longer your problem or concern.  The other side may “come around” or may not – but you no longer have control over that…it is now THEIR choice.  Accept it and be grateful for any outcome.

Along with other changes I have made recently to bring balance back into my life, (which I will write about further in my next post), this has been an extremely positive new, conscious and focused  choice for change I have made, and I thank HH Dalai Lama for bringing these insights to me (and the Universe for bringing me to the new book I recently read called: “My Spiritual Journey” by His Holiness).

As always, I am blessed and taken care of at all times.  And I do my best to appreciate all these blessings with joy and gratitude.

with love light and JOY

Jane

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