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Holy Ganga in Rishikesh

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WITH LOVE LIGHT AND JOY
JANE

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…a few quiet moments to restore balance and harmony in these difficult times
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Those of you who follow me on Facebook may have read my post from the beginning of the week where I wrote “Feeling Hopeful and Optimistic”.  It actually seemed to me that things were heading to an end and sanity would be restored.

It seemed like the idea of “quiet being answered by quiet” would work, and then we would just have to finish the work of finding and destroying as many of the tunnels as possible That at last the deaths and casualties of innocent civilians and the destruction would cease on both sides. And hopefully while working on the tunnels, as few soldiers as possible would be injured or killed…was I really so naive? or just being honestly, innocently and truly optimistic?

After all, we’ve destroyed lots of rockets, and how many could they have left anyway? And once they could no longer throw death and destruction at us, we, of course, would no longer have reason for “disproportional” response. And then, just the tunnels, just the tunnels, just the tunnels to deal with.

So why does it continue and continue and continue? Could I really be so naive and innocent and ridiculously “hopeful and optimistic”?

Is there truly no end in sight to this continued conflict? These continued wars?

Will we eternally have to fight this enemy that so desperately wants to be rid of as that it would sacrifice its own children relentlessly and savagely to that cause? And will our own children who are now soldiers continue to die defending us? Will the children living through all this grow up  in a world of continued war and hatred?

How do we end this? How do we return to harmony, sanity, peace, permanently? And not just for a few precious moments every now and then during respites in the fighting and killing, or those precious few moments out in Nature?

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Are WE doing something wrong? Should we be using more force? Less force? Or is it just a loose-loose situation? Could it really be that there IS no peaceful solution? I refuse to imagine that that is so. But if, as they say, they truly “live” to see the end of Israel, and Jews everywhere, then the battle to survive is eternal for us?

It is now 5 AM. My mind is in a whirl, despairing thoughts going round and round, thoughts I don’t want to be thinking, but have no choice…I will continue to strive to maintain my own focus on Faith, Freedom from Fear, Peace, Sanity, Love, Optimism, Harmony

…but how long can I continue to feel “hopeful and optimistic” without feeling “foolish”?

…and as they say in Facebook statuses:  “feeling annoyed, confused, desperate, frustrated, angry, pained, pissed, threatened, heartbroken, discouraged, perplexed.”

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May God bless us with Peace!

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The Light Always Awaits Us After the Storm

The Light Always Awaits Us After the Storm

When dealing with difficult situations, which very often involve dear friends or family members, we may often feel as if we have come up against a brick wall.  The other party refuses to talk to you, pays no attention to anything you try to say or explain, emits high levels of hostility, anger, disregard, derision or even contempt for what we feel is important.

The normal response in real time is to lash out with anger, frustration, jealousy or sarcasm.  And of course, none of this works.  It only helps to escalate an already explosive situation, and forces the other side to react in kind.

HH  Dalai Lama speaks about these issues when dealing not only with loved ones and friends, but even enemies.  His first piece of advice is of course to use compassion (which in this instance he interprets as using affection or love), but to combine it with reason and patience.

Well, this little piece of advice was something I put into action this past week…affection (love/compassion), reason and patience, in dealing with just another explosive situation involving those close to me.  To my great surprise, the results were amazingly simple and beautiful to behold.  The “situation” ended quietly, peacefully and lovingly, and “talking about it” was hardly necessary at all, since the “reason” part of the equation simply made so much sense, combined with the love and patience (for the other side to understand in their own way, at their own pace – which might take even a few days which is where the patience comes in).

Keeping those three things in mind next time you come up against something like this could make all the difference.  And if need be,take the time to “put your head together” before confronting the other person. And if, after all this, things still don’t seem to work out, don’t take it personally.  You have done everything you could have to rectify a bad situation, in the best possible way. It is now out of your hands and no longer your problem or concern.  The other side may “come around” or may not – but you no longer have control over that…it is now THEIR choice.  Accept it and be grateful for any outcome.

Along with other changes I have made recently to bring balance back into my life, (which I will write about further in my next post), this has been an extremely positive new, conscious and focused  choice for change I have made, and I thank HH Dalai Lama for bringing these insights to me (and the Universe for bringing me to the new book I recently read called: “My Spiritual Journey” by His Holiness).

As always, I am blessed and taken care of at all times.  And I do my best to appreciate all these blessings with joy and gratitude.

with love light and JOY

Jane

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Back to Reality and Dealing with Negative Feelings

Dreary Winter Morning

Anger, frustration, fear, worry – they do come – we are only human.  The question is what to do with these feelings when they arise.  This is a question I was confronted with once again recently.  It has been some time since this kind of swamped feeling has found its way into my life, and the truth is, until just last week, I didn’t realize it was actually happening!  The last 6 months have been filled with enormous changes in my life, and I had completely lost my balance, which is so important in my life.  But it wasn’t until my body began to rebel in many different ways, including serious knee problems (anger, fear) and a crashing immune system leading to repeated illnesses, that I began to suspect something might be seriously wrong.  Duh!!

And it wasn’t until I went for acupuncture treatment for my knees and the practitioner innocently asked me “where is all this stress coming from in your life?”, that I even began to THINK about stress.  I know from the past, that unlike many people who get migraines, or ulcers or HBP, when I am under extreme stress, my immune system just crashes.  Hasn’t happened though in about 15 years!  At first I denied it since “I no longer allow myself to get stressed by life” .But when I thought about it honestly I realized what was happening, and began to make new choices about my life situation and how I wanted to experience it.  Things have already begun getting back into order.  But as usual, I needed a good “hit over the head” to realize I had been making poor choices for several months.

I found myself in an extremely difficult place  – with feelings that I hadn’t experienced for a long time – and was at a loss about what to do regarding my reaction to the situation. Remember, we are always responsible for the way we feel and so these feelings of anger, frustration, fear and worry were not what was upsetting me, but the fact that I allowed myself to react in a way which allowed these feelings to arise in the first place.

So …what to do?

Well, it took me awhile, but I realized that first of all, the feelings must be validated, allowed to exist, and not buried.  Allow them their own freedom to “be” – find out where they are coming from and then move past them back to the balanced place.  And then make the positive choice to no longer give in to these negative thoughts and feelings, but to replace them with positive thoughts as each new situation comes up, and make the choice to experience all with complete acceptance, joy, gratitude and freedom from fear. If doing this involves a day or two of sleeping a lot, or playing computer games, of saying no to requests to baby sit, to not even feeling like cooking,  don’t beat myself up about it.  Allow myself the luxury of succumbing once in a while.  The downs only make the highs easier to relish, appreciate and be grateful for!

The relapses into bad times have a place in our lives and as such, are just as much a blessing as the so-called “good” stuff.  In the end, EVERYTHING is good, and for our own Higher Good.

And, once again,  I give thanks to God and the loving Universe for my many blessings, even when it takes me awhile to become aware of them.

with Love Light and Joy

Jane

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